Let this be your gentle guide through the storm. Just like your child is never alone with you, we will not leave you to handle this storm alone. Depression thrives in the dark. The way you shine the light is through talking about what the most guarded thoughts your child has. Do not be afraid to talk with a counselor at school or a licensed therapist about what your child is experiencing.
Start With Love & Openness
“There’s something important I want to talk about—because I love you. And no matter what, I’m here to help you feel safe and supported.”
Gentle Questions That Open the Door
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“Have you ever heard someone talk about suicide at school or online?”
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“Have you ever felt really overwhelmed or sad and didn’t know how to explain it?”
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“Do you ever feel like no one understands what you’re going through?”
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“Has anyone hurt you with words, online or in person?”
What to Say If They Share Something Heavy
“Thank you for telling me. I am so proud of you.”
“That sounds like a really big storm. Did you know that storms always pass. This one will, too and we will get through it together.”
“I cannot explain everything, but I know for sure that this world needs who you were meant to be.”
How to Normalize Emotional Pain
“All feelings are okay. Even the messy ones. Feeling sad or scared doesn’t mean you’re broken—it just means you’re human.”
“It’s okay to feel lost sometimes. You’re never alone on this journey. You have me!”
“Pain is nothing to be ashamed of. Let’s talk about it.”
End With This Promise
“No matter what happens, you can talk to me. You will never be in trouble for being honest.”
“There is nothing you could ever say or do that would make me not love you. Ever.”
“I am so proud of you. You’re stronger than you think. And we’re going to make it through this storm together.”
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